I often think about the value of being able to reset.

One of my earliest memories of this idea came from watching matches with my dad, Peter, on summer days. He’d close the curtains to block out the sun and often switch on the radio because he preferred the energy and commentary. It was like our own little amphitheatre, our own private bubble.

During the games, he’d talk through key moments. He pointed out examples of leadership and calm the things he really wanted me to see. I didn’t realise it at the time, but he was shaping how I saw the world and perceived mistakes.

“Look how the best get over their mistakes,” he’d say. “They move on to the next moment, the next ball.”

Back in 1999, Trevor Giles was one of the players he always spoke about. What stood out wasn’t just the scores or the assists. It was how he responded to the misses. I remember it so clearly. The calmness, the presence, even the confidence to cut off the sleeves of his jersey because he liked how it felt. He was totally focused on what gave him an edge.

And I got the concept but I struggled to implement it.

I’m still thinking about it now, on a Monday in August 2025, 26 years later.

Even with that awareness, resetting has never been easy. It’s always harder in practice. That’s the thing, isn’t it? There’s a process that rarely gets talked about.

You have to accept the mistake. The moment is gone.

You can’t control the past, but you can return to this one.

Control your effort.

Control your self-talk.

Smile. You’re here.

This is what you trained for.

Take a breath.

Otften you also need someone to talk to about those moments, the ones that make you wince so you can learn to deal with them.

Just like those summer days watching Trevor Giles, I think about it now when I’m playing golf, filming a video, writing a new recipe or article. All the things I care about. All the moments I want to get right.

They won’t always be perfect.

But they don’t need to be perfect to have an impact that lasts.

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